How to find Happiness at Work.
Stephen Quinlan
Over 15 years ago, I once asked someone I supervised how his work was going? and he said “it’s alright” and I replied “is that as good as it gets?” to which he replied “work is work, if it was expected to be good they would call it something else”.
This dominant narrative that work should not be fun is antiquated, out-dated, and false. There is some really good cutting edge research by organizations like “The Happiness Index” that shows how wrong that narrative is.
Every one has some influence on the culture of the workplace, how much, depends on a variety of factors, such as position and our own personality. We may think we have no ability to change the culture of where we work, but I will argue that there is a great deal we can do to make our work environment a happier one.
In his book,Freedom to be Happy, Matt Phelan argues how happier employees are more productive, more creative, sell more, and create better financial outcomes for their organizations. But what do you do if the company you work for does not support this idea or even goes as far as being adamantly opposed to fostering happy employees? What if your company uses the carrot and stick method, dangling a reward to the most productive workers, or worse, monitors you to ensure optimized output even at the expense of employee’s wellbeing. It appears that many companies do not understand the tangible cost that comes from having an unhappy workforce.
In this industrialized time period, individuals spend many hours a week at work, many of us devoting more waking hours with our co-workers than our family. If people are not feeling happiness during the predominant part of their day at work, it is often challenging to meet this need when we leave work. When our jobs feel overwhelming or meaningless, returning to work can often preoccupy thoughts outside of work with feelings of fear or dread.
My proposition is to explore the areas where you have control and you may be surprised by the change you are able to create in your own happiness around work. I want to share a story about a person I knew, who would come to the office and periodically give updates on his life. He always attested that he resented his job, with good reason. He complained that he had to work the night shift at a sewage treatment centre and felt he had a skillset that should allow him to earn more money. He had spent years feeling frustrated about his career, which impacted his mental health outside of work and was a strong factor in him needing to seek out help for his addiction.
Each session he would lament over the challenges that he was facing with regards to how despondent he was feeling about his job. However, one day he came in and said “he loved his job!!” What was the cause of this remarkable change? Had he changed jobs or been promoted? He explained that nothing had changed, that he had the same job, but that he had started to look at working at his job in a different way.
The job was just as hard and unpleasant as always, but he reported that he had stopped focusing on what he was doing, and instead, looked at “why” he was doing it. He said that he realized that every shift he worked “puts food on the table for his children”. Additionally, working the night shift allowed him and his wife to be available for all their kid’s school runs, sports games, and activities – allowing them to fit work in while being available for their kids during this busy, but cherished, time in their lives. Rather than putting his energy into resenting what he could not control about his job, he shifted his focus onto what he could change – his perception of the work he was doing. By deriving meaning from what he was doing, he was able to realize that working this job allowed him to prioritize what he truly valued – supporting and being present with his family. He had found a way to connect the job he was doing with his core values and beliefs.
The Daisidara is a poem written by Max Ehrmann in 1927, it is known for providing common sense advice for life, that Happiness Management updated it and in it we offer advice for gig workers and those who do not find meaning in their jobs.
“Remain interested in your own work. How you approach your tasks matters to the ecosystem. Even GIG work can give purpose when looked at as it supports your future plans”.
The lines remind us that how we turn up for work mentally, impacts the time we spend at work and even our purpose in life. If we cannot give a smile to our colleagues when we see them at the start of the shift, we are setting ourselves and those around us up for an unhappy shift and making the shift feel longer and harder than it needs to be. If you are doing GIG work and all you are doing it for is the money, that money is still helping you build a better life for yourself.Creating happiness in your work is as important as creating it in your life as a whole.
The question I leave you with is why do you do the work you do? Is it your passion? If not, does doing it allow you to focus on what is important to you in your life? Does it allow you to do a fulfilling hobby, spend time outdoors, take care of a beloved pet, or be with the ones you love? By finding the “why”in regard to our work allows us to understand where we find meaning and purpose in that part of our life, which will lead to increased feelings of happiness and satisfaction.
I would recommend delving into some of the brilliant work out there, such as the work done by “The Happiness Index”. I was inspired to write this article after watching the TEDx Talk by Matt Phelan “12 Million lessons in Happiness” (see link below) and his two books “Freedom to be Happy” and “The Happiness Index”, both well worth a read if you want a deep dive into the research that informs how to make work a happy place. It is an essential read for anyone who wants to understand the connection between being happy at work and all the benefits that go with that.
(Published 5 Feb 2026)
Ref:
https://youtu.be/AHhwiLTKXiQ?si=icz2f7BwRA2eeiUr
The Pursuit of Guilt-free Happiness
By Simi Aujla
Happiness at the simple cost of guilt. Is it a price you’re willing to pay? At first thought it might seem like an overexaggeration, but for many first generation children of immigrant households, this is an ever-present and pervasive feeling.
Growing up, I always felt like I lived the best of both worlds as a Panjabi-Canadian. I came from a culture rich with customs and traditions, music and food, existing as colourfully as the people within it. The collectivist nature of my ethnic heritage instilled within me a strong sense of identity centered around kinship and reliability; there was the promise that you’d never be abandoned, for wherever you went in the world, “apneh” would always be there: “our people.” These ideas, tangled with the concept of “seva” which translates to “selfless service” within the Sikh philosophy, taught me to show up for others as boldly as I would for myself, if not more. On the other hand, I had a blast growing up alongside my western peers within Canadian society that championed ideas of individualism, self-expression, and the power of the self, independent of all external influence. The thing about growing up in two different cultures, however, is that you might face expectations from both sides and find yourself unable commit 100% to either, often falling short when finding yourself on the edge of self-discovery. As someone who feels the need to please others in order to feel regulated herself, this may present to be a bit of an issue.
When I was a child, I would often hear the following phrase: “Everything that we do is for you.” In collectivist cultures, such as mine, this is not an uncommon thing to hear. At first, I felt flattered. I felt cared for. I felt privileged. As time went on, I began to observe. My parents lived a life of seemingly unending stress and hardship, and even as a young child I could feel that. Raising a family in a culture and country that isn’t your own brings an unimaginable type of stress I couldn’t even begin to conceptualize. This doesn’t include navigating the added stressors of daily life and work and interpersonal relationships. Whether it was my father working 16 hour shifts so that he could provide for us or my mum ensuring all of our needs were taken care of before her own, I was learning a very important lesson that I am working to unlearn even to this day: happiness is sacrifice at our expense. In other words, I was learning that my happiness was not my own. My family had sacrificed so much for me, and what felt like an honour and responsibility as a child, became suffocating as an adult. As a child, my happiness was reliant on and controlled by those around me. Naturally, the trusted adults in our life are largely responsible for our emotional regulation as young people. However, as we grow older that burden shifts into our own hands and we become responsible for regulating our own emotions and ensuring that we are joyful, content, and at peace. So, when I had all the power, when I had everything, I didn’t know what to do with it.
My conflicting feelings were only further enforced when my parents would say “as long as you’re happy, I am happy.” A noble sentiment, surely. So, I returned the favour, thinking that it was the least I could do to live my life in a way that would make my parents happy. By my logic, then I would be happy too, right? For a time, I thought I was fine to go on like this because it did fill me with pride and a sense of accomplishment, which were both positive feelings. But was ithappiness? I couldn’t be sure, and if I was doubtful, I feared that gave me my answer.
One day, I grew up and became that young twenty-something-year-old my parents were when they first began to sacrifice their happiness for me, and I was hit with the realization: I do not want that for myself. The fear of disappointing those around me when I so often relied on their happiness to fuel my own, frequently had me make decisions against my own sense of wellness. Against my own happiness. So no, I did not stay out past midnight with my friends as a teen doing things teens did. I did not go study abroad even though it was what I wanted. I did not pursue certain educational opportunities even locally, because I did not want to be a financial burden. I did not move out in my twenties, because “what about your mom?” So, when one grows into their own person, and begins to make choices for themselves for the first time in their life that might not lend to the happiness of another, we are presented with quite the issue.
A thought had come to me in my mid-twenties upon having watched all of my friends move away and abroad, pursuing their dreams and passions. They were creating identities for themselves, while I was beginning the process of dismantling mine. The feeling of selfishness that arises when trying to put one’s happiness and wellbeing before another’s, when all you’ve seen and been taught is the opposite, was inconceivable when having grown up the way I did. It felt like a betrayal to my family’s sacrifices, and quite frankly, it felt petrifying.
I still don’t know if happiness is a goal or just simply a state of being, but I have learned a few things. First and foremost, that it can be just one choice at a time. Whether it be eating a tray of cookies for dinner, or taking that solo trip you’d always envisioned yourself doing as a young person. Secondly, happiness is not a one-size-fits-all kind of thing. It looks different for everyone, and at the moment, happiness to me looks like courage. The courage to act, speak, or move differently. Being bold enough to say yes, or being brave enough to say no. Most importantly, happiness is subject to alchemy. It is ever-changing, and it can be whatever you want it to be. Today, for me it is a radical concept that is about driving change and pushing the parameters. It is about explosive vulnerability and braving the unknown despite my fears. One day, however, I hope that my happiness will look like peace, and until that day comes, that is what I will envision it as. Every choice I make for or towards it will lend to its adaptation, constantly re-shaping and rematerializing what joy and happiness is, until it becomes something comfortable and recognizable.
(Posted 1 Feb 2026)
I was playing an online game, fighting a powerful boss alongside a stranger I’d never met. For people unfamiliar with video games, a “boss” is a difficult enemy you face more than once to defeat. When you finally succeed, there’s a chance—often very small—of receiving a rare “drop,” an in-game reward that might never appear again.
The first round went well enough. I made mistakes, but we survived. The second round didn’t. I was hit by a fireball from the sky, and we lost.
Afterward, my teammate typed a brief but sharp message: “You’re bad.”
That commentlanded harder than I expected. I was learning, trying, and still improving—but I was judged for being imperfect. In that moment, I felt discouraged and hurt. A familiar urge appeared: to withdraw, to stop trying, to protect myself from feeling that discomfort again.
I thought about quitting. Not because I didn’t enjoy the game, but because staying meant being open to more judgment.
This is a familiar fork in the road. Discomfort shows up—self-doubt, fear—and we have a choice. We can move away from the feeling by avoiding the situation, or we can make space for the discomfort and continue acting in line with our values.
I chose to stay. Not to prove the other player wrong, and not because I suddenly felt confident—but because I didn’t want one person’s unkindness to decide my behaviour.
Eventually, I defeated the boss. And this time I received one of the rarest drops in the game, all while playing with someone patient and encouraging.
The drop felt satisfying, but that wasn’t the real reward.
For people who don’t play games, it might be easy to dismiss this as trivial. But the “drop” is a useful metaphor. In life, we often chase outcomes—success, approval, confidence, relief—hoping they’ll arrive if we just endure enough discomfort. Sometimes they do. Often, they don’t.
Resilience isn’t about getting the drop. It’s about staying present and choosing actions that align with our values, even when the outcome is uncertain. Confidence isn’t something we wait to feel before acting; it’s something that grows because we stay.
What I learned in that moment is that unkind people don’t define us—they test us. They reveal the values we want to live by when things get uncomfortable.
We all face these moments: a cutting comment, a small humiliation, a situation that makes us want to retreat. The question isn’t whether it hurts—it does. The question is whether we let discomfort make our choices for us, or whether we choose who we want to be, drop or no drop.
Over the years that I have been working on happiness, I have found that one of the main challenges I run into is the idea of happiness means feeling “good”. The kind of feeling you get when you find a $20 bill. However this goal is an unhelpful one, as it is normally due to random chance and there is little you can do to intentionally replicate the feeling. Positive Psychology often uses the definition “mental wellbeing” as a definition of happiness, because if your mental wellbeing improves you will be happier.
What different ways can happiness be defined? The World Happiness Report uses the “Cantril Ladder” when ranking countries, which addresses mainly the quality of overall life, but there are also equally useful approaches, such as addressing everyday happiness.
The Cantril Ladder:
Quality of overall life.
(The question used by the World Happiness Report world rankings).
Please imagine a ladder with steps numbered from 0 at the bottom to 10 at the top. The top of the ladder represents the best possible life for you and the bottom of the ladder represents the worst possible life for you.
On which step of the ladder would you say you personally feel you stand at this time?
Alternatively another way to define happiness is by looking at the quality of your life. This means focusing on the day to day feelings you have around happiness by looking at the day to day feelings around happiness, which of course are more prone to daily ups and downs.
Positive Affect:
Quality of your everyday living.
Answer Yes or No to the following:
1. Did you experience enjoyment during a lot of the day yesterday?
2. Did you learn or do something interesting yesterday?
3. Did you smile or laugh a lot yesterday?
The problem with such wide variations of what we mean for one word can and often does lead to confusion. It is too cumbersome to ask someone what they mean by happiness each time they use the word. And we always assume we know what people mean when they use the word happiness.
If I want to clarify what I mean by happiness when I normally say, “I do not mean that feeling of butterflies in your stomach, rather the hard work it takes to keep your mental wellbeing in good shape”. As you can see, one is a fluttering momentary feeling and the other is long term hard work that leads to a stronger, more resilient person. In the same way if you do exercises to increase or maintain your physical health, you can do work (exercise) to manage your happiness, you will increase or increase your mental wellbeing, or in simple terms, be happy.
How do you know when your happiness increases?
If we had a simple generally accepted definition of happiness, it would be easy to know, but the way we know we are increasing our happiness is by managing our stress and looking for the small things that we should be grateful for. For me, practicing gratitude is the most common way people practice building a better, happier life.
From Routine to Ritual
It is easy to imagine. The alarm is blaring, your body is heavy, it is Monday morning, and all you want to do is stay under the covers and sleep until Friday afternoon. You manage to stumble out of bed, into the bathroom, then into the kitchen for your morning toast and coffee. You scroll through the daily news while you finish your final sips then you dress yourself and make your way to work.
From morning to evening, we cannot help but find ourselves falling into routine ways of living. Most of the time, this habit of ours is harmless and completely unconscious. However, these routines mean more to us than we often realize. Part of the stress of moving, or starting a new job, is the disruption it brings to our established routines. Moreover, how often have you found yourself subtly agitated when someone inadvertently disrupts your long-established routine?
Since routine is such a common feature of human life, it is worth investigating how we can modify our routines to favour our happiness and wellbeing. Our days usually begin, and end, with routines and there are countless moments in our day that can develop into them. There are numerous ways to modify routines in favour of happiness, but I would like to suggest one simple way: shifting from routine to ritual.
On the surface, routines and rituals are actually quite similar. They are a set of behaviours or actions performed in a fixed and predictable way. However, we all know there is something deeper underlying ritual that sets it apart from routine. I would argue that the biggest differentiation between ritual and routine lies in one word, intention.
A good example of how intention creates ritual is the Japanese tea ceremony. In these ceremonies everything from the teaware to the setting of the ceremony is intentional. For example, guests must enter the teahouse on their hands and knees through a small door, which reinforces the equality of all in the teahouse. Regardless of status, everyone crawls (and must bow) to enter the tea house. Behind every act and behaviour in the tea ceremony is intention.
We all drink a hot beverage from time to time, many of us drink coffee or tea every morning, but how many of us drink with attention, care, and intention? Being intentional about our routine is a way for us to reframe our lives. Rather than seeing the morning coffee as another task to get through, we could instead consider the many hands that brought that cup of coffee to our lips from the farmers, to the pickers, to the distributors, manufacturers, and packagers. Or, we could choose to make the morning coffee a time for peace where we are free from screens and distractions for a little while and fully able to appreciate the preciousness of a hot cup of coffee.
There are an indefinite number of ways to shift our routines into rituals through intention. We hope this has inspired you to reconsider some of your routines and how, through intention, you can create more ritual in your life. Bringing intention into our lives is a great way to promote greater mindfulness, compassion, contentment, and joy. When we stop to cherish our daily moments we cannot help but connect deeper with the present moment, which eventually leads us to greater happiness and wellbeing.
